--------------W.I.S.H. FOR RELATIONSHIPS

*50% Of All Marriages Will End In Divorce !
"People are lazy and want to be comfortable and too often take their family for granted. They pay no attention to the relationship until it is broken. Then they seek "marital counseling". But it's already too little too late and the beginning of the end. The results are either they stay together and live a life of desperation for fear of being alone (or for guilt) or they end up getting a divorce.
Most marriages last 6 years which gives them just about enough time to have a couple little children. Custody and child support are the hottest buttons in divorce. Making the divorce process painful and expensive. Many people also chose to stay in a bad marriage "for the sake of the children". But, children are not stupid. They know what's going on. Unhappy home breeds unhappy children. What they learn from such arrangement is either they are the center of the universe and parents and other people are not important and are there only to serve them or they take the cue from their parents and assume that they are to sacrifice their lives in turn for other people. Bad lessons either way. " - Vimala Nowlis, Divorce Attorney, Los Angeles

*This survey rate excludes California, Colorado, Indiana and Louisiana, which do not keep track of divorce statistics. (National Census Bureau click Here).
Marital and relationship problems are at the top of the list of "social stressors" which not only cause much unhappiness, depression and emotional upset in one's life, but also can predict the likelihood of a person getting a serious illness or disease due to stress. Click HERE for Medical News / learn more about stress and your health.

HEART & SOUL CENTERED COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR RELATIONSHIP & PERSONAL GROWTH

With ever growing grim divorce rate statistics, it is no wonder why people are so afraid to get involved in relationships, especially if they have already gone through one divorce, lost half of their community wealth in the process and now live as single parents dependant on or obligated to child support payments.

What a shame when all we really wanted in the beginning was "to love, honor and cherish each other til death do us part". What went wrong? What happened to the "happily ever after" scenario?

Unfortunately, no school teaches us or prepares us for being in a committed relationship, nor how to balance being a supportive partner and a responsible parent and still nurture ourself. In addition, much of the time our own childhood experience of family was also disfunctional and not equipped to act as a positive role model of mutual loving support.

Learning Heart & Soul-Centered Communication Skills will give you the tools to relate to others with clairty, honesty, mutual respect and love in all your relationships whether personal, family or professional.
You will learn how to resolve conflicts gracefully, build understanding, acceptance and trust and create new intimacy and loving regard with your partner and family relations.

Many times what you say is not what the other person hears because of all sorts of “protective filters” that are operating in their subconscious. A person may hear “trigger” words or phrases that automatically send their train of thought down an entirely different path than what you expect them to understand. Other times, we withhold speaking our truth out of politeness or out of fear of being rejected, or we expect the other person to be mind readers and know what we really want from them. Your left feeling not heard, hurt, and angry.

As time goes on in your relationship, this pattern of inadequate and incomplete communication leads to deeper feelings of misunderstanding, disappointment, resentment and blame. More and more separation from your initial loving intentions occur and before you know it, you want to call it quits.

This scenario is played out over and over again from one relationship to the next, because you never learned how to communicate properly, nor how to nurture yourself AND nurture your loved ones at the same time.

• Resolve Conflicts Gracefully
• Improve Your Listening Skills
• Desensitize “Triggers” To Arguments
• Broaden Your Understanding & Acceptance Of Each Other
• Create A Strong Foundation For Your Children & Family Goals
• Learn Communication Skills That Were Never Taught In School Or In Your Home
• Create A Healthy Relationship - Mind, Body & Soul

Here is what one student of "Commitment To Love" has to say about the 12-week course and on-going classes:

"It feels like my 14 year marriage is refreshed and I am a new reborn person.
Thank you very much." Litta, successful real estate agent with husband

"COMMITMENT TO LOVE" - 12-WEEK COURSE AND INDIVIDUAL CLASSES IN HEARTT & SOUL-CENTERED COMMUNICATION SKILLS

Making a "Commitment To Love" means making a commitment to your Self. In order to create, improve, save or renew any relationship, you first must make a commitment to your Self for personal growth and development regardless of what the other person does.

Porchia's W.I.S.H. For Love offers numerous ways in which to learn valuable new communication skills so you can create and maintain the kind of successful, happy, loving relationships in your life that you truly desire.

Commitment To Love 12-Week Course & Individual Classes teach you how to recognize and work through the Nine Traps of Unconscious Loving that undermine the love in relationships and cause separation. The 12-week course and on-going classes are taught in 4-week modules in which you will learn how to create a solid foundation for a successful and happy future through things like:

• How to ask for what you want in ways that will be heard and understood;
• How to honor your own needs without ignoring those of your partner's;
• How to create mutually empowering and co-committed relationships;
• How to resolve conflicts peacefully with mutual respect
• How to follow your heart's desire, while listening to your soul-wisdom
• How to reconnect in your loving, have fun and create happiness and harmony in your home
• How to re-ignite the passion in your relationship

This is not therapy, but rather an effective and profound educational system in which you will learn and practice new communication skills, written and behavioral exercise to ground the teachings and fun homework assignments to bring you and your partner closer together, both in class and at home.

Meeting on a regular basis allows you time to learn, process new information and integrate these new skills into your daily life, while the on-going private classes allow you to focus on your specific areas of desired change.

People Who Commit To Love Include Those Who Are:

• Long term relationships wanting to improve communication
• New relationships wanting to change old destructive patterns
• Entering a new marriage wanting to build a solid foundation for a successful future
• Singles desiring relationship but held back by their fears
  

SPECIAL EVENTS
"Why Is Your Relationship Not Happy?"
FREE Lectures at Pharmaca Integrative Pharmacy in Pacific Palisades. Every month there are opportunities to attend FREE introductory lectures to learn more about Commitment To Love and The Nine Traps of Unconscious Loving. Click HERE to find out dates, times and location of upcoming events.

Response from this FREE Lecture:
I stumbled upon your presentation by accident...and it was like a gift from Divinity.
Thank you so much for blessing me that evening....by allowing our paths to cross....
and by sharing your wisdom. I am so grateful. Laura Danielle

2-DAY & 5-DAY WORKSHOPS may be held locally in Los Angeles or in retreat at a rejuvenating destination resorts spas. Past venues have included Miraval Resort, Val-A-Vie, Red Mountain Adventure Resort & Spa, We Care Spa, Sycamore Mineral Springs & Spa

• Return To Love is a six-part series of 2-day workshops held locally in Los Angeles, with each weekend class focusing on a different solution to The Nine Traps Of Unconscious Loving as taught in the Commitment To Love 12-week course. Two day intensives allow singles and couples to spend a full weekend devoted to expanding their loving, understanding and personal development in a safe and confidential group experience in a beautiful mountain retreat setting close to home. Click HERE for more information
• Journey Into The Heart For Mothers & Daughters is a 2-night, 3-day workshop opportunity for women of all ages to come together at a healing destination resort and spa setting to cultivate new understanding, compassion, acceptance and loving connections. Click HERE for more information.

W.I.S.H. WISDOM CIRCLES are gatherings of like-minded people on a spiritual path who desire to come together in sacred space to share their wisdom, discover new meaning in the challenges and occurrences of daily life and gain a more expansive perspective of purpose in their personal life. Wisdom Circles may take place indoors or may be combined with mindful nature hikes in the Santa Monica and Malibu Mountains.

WISDOM CIRCLES FOR YOUR PRIVATE GROUP OR EVENT may be booked with Dianne Porchia, MA as facilitator for your private event, organization or group of friends. Dianne is an experienced workshop and group leader who conducts ceremonies, rituals and rites of passage for those transitioning to the other side. Click HERE for more information on Wisdom Circles.

MEDICAL NEWS

Learning how to communicate honestly, fully and from the heart is actually one of the best life skills you can develop to reduce stress in your life, keep a positive attitude and create and maintain loving connections and healthy living.

Cellular Biologist Bruce Lipton explains that cells share the “community” voice and are either in a growth / reproductive mode, or in a protection / flight mode. Cells will move in either one of these directions, but they cannot be in both modes at the same time.
Cells are “attracted” to growth through “perceptions” of love, nurturing, compassion, etc. which stimulate the parasympathetic or somatic nervous system and act to boost T-cell count and the immune system, or they are “repulsed” by “perceptions” of fear, stress, anger, etc. which stimulate the sympathetic or viscera nervous system and the “fight or flight” protection mode response, which cause stress hormones, corticosteroids to be secreted into the system.

When these stress hormones are activated, blood flow to the forebrain is shut off, thereby inhibiting our brain function and intellect, (as you experience during anxiety and panic attacks when you cannot think clearly).
Meanwhile, blood is being poured into the hind brain for muscular and self-preservation response, while simultaneously suppressing our immune system.
When our immune system is suppressed our bodies become more susceptible to infections, illness and disease.

Through speaking our truth and coming into clear, heart and soul-centered understanding and awareness of our Self and others, we are actually being Self- nurturing, Self-loving and assisting our physical body in maintaining a healthy, strong immune system.
This happens because we are now taking responsibility for our Self in a loving and empowering way. We are trusting our Soul-Wisdom, acting with personal integrity, honesty and sincerity, while dispelling fear and Self doubt.

Learning how to communicate honestly, fully and from the heart is actually one of the best life skills you can develop to reduce stress in your life, keep a positive attitude and create and maintain loving connections and healthy living.

LATEST MEDICAL NEWS ON STRESS
Chronic Stress can interfere with normal function of the immune system...
Chronic Stress not only makes people more vulnerable to catching illnesses but can also impair their immune system's ability to respond to its own anti-inflammatory signals that are triggered by certain hormones, say researchers, possibly altering the course of an inflammatory disease...
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